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I am a 23 year old Computer Science student who has also been working on a novel for some time now (well novels anyway) and will do more of this profile a little later.
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Let me explain love in some depth to clarify this issue. Love according to dictionary.com is primarly:
A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness..
Now, let us analyse this shall we?
Now, OK, there is emotion involved here, positive emotion, but there is more too it. It is not based on some arbitary whim, you choosing to love just anyone because some collectivist told you that you should love your neighbour or what have you.
No, love is a deep emontional bond that exists for a reason.
Now, family members usually have some sort of love for each other, but that is not really what we are talking about here, so we will not delve too far into that.
Now, it might be based on recoginition of attractive qualitiess, ie you value that persons identity, parts of whom they are and their actions/personality. Now what are ones actions and personality based on? Ones world view and their values, their concepts of the nature of the world and their place and others place in the world.
That is, because we share parts of their world view, respect who they are and share a number of their values. It is based on ones assessement of that person based on what they know/think about that person.
Ah, you say, but can such things be irrational in any way? Well, one might be wrong about the qualities they beleive one to have, maybe due to understandable errors or dishonesty on the behalf of that person. They may share irrationa l views and values with that person. But it is love all the same... you can love someone based on the fact you share irrational values.
Now, think about the last bit...the feeling of oneness. Despite what you say, you cannot honestly say you feel at one with someone unless you fulfill the previous criteria. You might wish to feel at one with them, you might beleive you do, but your emotions will differ. You cannnot just create emotions, or that feel of oneness.
Emotions are derived from your thoughts, whether or not they are rational. You feel at one with someone if your mind considers that you have enough in common with that person.
See, love is not an arbitary emontional game, but a deep emontional bond based on the way you think...on your thoughts and your and anothers [perceived] values... with family love put to the side anyway...
A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness..
Now, let us analyse this shall we?
Now, OK, there is emotion involved here, positive emotion, but there is more too it. It is not based on some arbitary whim, you choosing to love just anyone because some collectivist told you that you should love your neighbour or what have you.
No, love is a deep emontional bond that exists for a reason.
Now, family members usually have some sort of love for each other, but that is not really what we are talking about here, so we will not delve too far into that.
Now, it might be based on recoginition of attractive qualitiess, ie you value that persons identity, parts of whom they are and their actions/personality. Now what are ones actions and personality based on? Ones world view and their values, their concepts of the nature of the world and their place and others place in the world.
That is, because we share parts of their world view, respect who they are and share a number of their values. It is based on ones assessement of that person based on what they know/think about that person.
Ah, you say, but can such things be irrational in any way? Well, one might be wrong about the qualities they beleive one to have, maybe due to understandable errors or dishonesty on the behalf of that person. They may share irrationa l views and values with that person. But it is love all the same... you can love someone based on the fact you share irrational values.
Now, think about the last bit...the feeling of oneness. Despite what you say, you cannot honestly say you feel at one with someone unless you fulfill the previous criteria. You might wish to feel at one with them, you might beleive you do, but your emotions will differ. You cannnot just create emotions, or that feel of oneness.
Emotions are derived from your thoughts, whether or not they are rational. You feel at one with someone if your mind considers that you have enough in common with that person.
See, love is not an arbitary emontional game, but a deep emontional bond based on the way you think...on your thoughts and your and anothers [perceived] values... with family love put to the side anyway...
